9 Foods (and Drinks) to Avoid While Pregnant

9 Foods (and Drinks) to Avoid While Pregnant

There is a TON of misinformation out there about what foods you should and shouldn’t eat when you’re pregnant.  Most people probably never give it a second thought until it’s their turn.  

While most things are safe to eat, there are some that could cause infection to your baby and could even potentially cause miscarriage should they be contaminated.  

If you have already eaten some of these items, don’t freak out.  Even though these risks are real, statistically speaking, it is very unlikely that you have been exposed.  Use this information moving forward.

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Infant CPR: What to do if your baby stops breathing

Infant CPR: What to do if your baby stops breathing

Would you know what to do if your baby stopped breathing?  It is an awful thing to think about, but it is a scenario we need to consider.  In all the preparation for making your home safe for your baby, have you taken the time to ensure you and your family are trained in infant CPR skills to ensure that your baby would have the best chance of survival if something caused her to stop breathing?

Medical professionals who tend to use these skills more often have to recertify every 2 years to keep their skills fresh.  It is even more important for non-medical people to review skills frequently so they remember what to do in an emergency. Continue reading

How to Realize Your Dream of Becoming a Stay-at-Home Mom

How to Realize Your Dream of Becoming a Stay-at-Home Mom

The day has finally come!!  Your baby is here.  That sweet, precious bundle you waited for so long is staring up at you, and it hits you.  You realize that in a few short weeks you will have to leave that angel in someone else’s arms because maternity leave is coming to an end.  Your heart breaks.  Why does it have to be this way?

Simple.  It doesn’t.

The world may tell you that you have to have two incomes to survive today.  You might look at the bottom line and agree.  You might think that it’s great for the rich people out there, but you’re not one of them and you have to work.  You might think these things, but you might be wrong. Continue reading

How to Survive Natural Birth

How to Survive Natural Birth

It is probably not news to you that we live in a culture that is not very supportive of natural birth.  Labor and birth have become very medical over the years and interventions are the norm.  Most people are induced into labor whether or not there is a good reason.  If your goal is to have your baby naturally, you often have a fight on your hands.

Besides that, natural labor is hard.  Really hard.  So on top of being ready to deal with the system at hand, you have to do all you can to mentally prepare yourself to work through the labor process.  You have to make sure you’ve done the things necessary to prepare yourself to run the marathon and win the race.  

Moms are often left wondering if they can do it….do they have what it takes?  You are probably wondering that, too.  That is probably what led you to this article.

It is survival of the fittest.  You need all the tools you can have at your disposal.  I want you to succeed!!  Read on to learn some of the best things you can do in order to survive and ROCK your natural birth.

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7 Reasons You Need a Midwife (Even if You’re NOT Pregnant)

7 Reasons You Need a Midwife (Even if You’re NOT Pregnant)

If you know a midwife, you probably know that at least once in her career, she’s heard something along the lines of, “Wait….you’re a WHAT?  I didn’t even know those still existed. What, do you deliver babies in barns??”  It’s amazing the amount of misinformation that’s out there.  In the age of the internet, one would think everyone would know what midwives are by now.

Unfortunately, that’s not the case.  Let me give you a quick rundown of what a midwife is and how they function in case you are among those who thought we went the way of the horse-drawn carriage.  Then we’ll move on to 7 reasons you need a midwife, even if you’re NOT pregnant.

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How to Know if Your Support System Truly Supports Your Birth Choices

How to Know if Your Support System Truly Supports Your Birth Choices

In a perfect world, it would not be difficult to navigate the maternity system.  You could simply show up, tell them what your wishes are, and it would be so.  You could have your babies easily with or without a support system.  Labor and birth would be a beautiful utopia.  But since the fall of creation, that has never been so.  To succeed in the kind of birth you want, you MUST have a strong, truly SUPPORTIVE support system.

So why does your support system matter so much?

Because labor is one of the most vulnerable times we face as women.  We are in pain.  We are in a very emotional place.  We are in a very unsure place, especially if this is the first baby.  We are often exhausted and we just want it to be over. Continue reading

HouseMidwife’s Top 8 Books to Prepare you for Birth and Breastfeeding

HouseMidwife’s Top 8 Books to Prepare you for Birth and Breastfeeding


There are a lot of books out there about birth.  A LOT.  Sadly, many are filled with information that reinforces the bad information that’s out there.  It makes me sad when I hear that someone has only read a book that tells them…eh hem….what to expect.  There’s just so many outstanding books out there that will actually PREPARE you, not just usher you into following hospital protocol.

What ARE those books?  Well, I’m glad you asked.  I took a little stroll upstairs to my bookshelf to find the ones I recommend highest.  While the links for each book here are affiliate links (see my Disclaimer if you want to know what that means), each and every one of these books is on my shelf AND I’ve read it AND I think it is well worth your time to read. Continue reading

Informed Consent: What it IS and what it IS NOT

Informed Consent: What it IS and what it IS NOT


Have you ever been sitting in your provider’s office and had someone briefly recommend a procedure and then shove a piece of paper in your face to sign? What about laying in a hospital bed? The doctor comes in, quickly tells you what he or she thinks needs to be done to make you all better in language you don’t understand. The nurse brings in the paperwork and asks you to sign it, likely without really going over it.  They might tell you that it’s a consent form or they may not.

Have you ever signed that paper without reading it? Did you feel like you were bothering them if you took the time to read it? They’re busy, after all. They are here to do what’s best for you, right? You should probably just trust that everything on there is good and sign it.

Or should you?

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How to Find a Midwife

How to Find a Midwife

Word is getting around that midwives are outstanding providers. While every profession has imposters, generally speaking, midwives tend to be concerned with providing you holistic, evidence-based care that puts you, the client, first. Yes, we have protocols we follow, but we take into consideration your wants and needs to customize your care.  If you’re reading this post, you’re likely considering choosing a midwife for your birth.

Once you’ve decided you would like to choose a midwife for your care, you need to determine where you want to give birth. There are 3 basic options. Home, a birth center, or hospital. To learn more about how to choose where you want to have your baby, check out my upcoming blog post where I discuss it in more detail. You need to know this first because the type of midwife you choose will need to be one that practices in your chosen setting.

Unfortunately, you’ll also need to do a little research on whether midwives can legally practice in your state.  You can learn more about that here and here.

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My Why

My Why

When I started working as a nurse in labor and delivery many moons ago, I was armed with my nursing school knowledge and that was about it.  If you know anyone who’s a nurse, you know that means I basically knew nothing.  The real learning comes on the job.

So, as eager as could be, I started orienting to the way things were done.  I was taught by several excellent veteran nurses.  They taught me all the tools of the trade.  I learned the routines and the protocols.  I trusted all I was told as the best way, whether or not it made sense to me.

I’ll give you an example.  Essentially everyone that set foot in a labor room got Pitocin and an epidural.  Everyone.  I remember thinking, “These things haven’t always been available.  I know women used to have babies without these things all the time.  But I guess if this is how it’s done now, this must be the best way.”  I went along with it and didn’t question.

My early days as a Navy nurse

Does this sound familiar to you?  Even if you’re reading this with no medical experience, I bet you can tell a similar story.  Most people know this feeling all too well when it comes to the labor world.  They’ve been led to believe this is the only way and this is the best way.  Because it’s not their area of expertise, they ignore that nagging voice inside them that is trying to get them to dig deeper.  They trust the “experts”. Continue reading